This could be a really tell tale sign that I’m *sighs* getting older, but I’ve noticed on social media a lot more people than usual proclaiming 2016 to be the worst year of their life.
In reflecting upon events that happened for myself, and a lot of my friends, this year was filled with extreme highs and lows. There were immeasurable losses that reared themselves in all kinds of ways, and achievements that go far beyond congratulatory Facebook posts.
I’m starting to think a phenomenon of getting older is your highs become higher and your lows become lower. A few years ago when I was in college, a low might’ve been failing a final exam. Now a low for my friends and I might be still being unemployed after 6-12 months of looking or even getting fired from your job. A high could’ve been getting into graduate school and now it’s getting engaged, having a child or landing the job that will set the course for the rest of your life.
It’s no secret that I’m a huge fan of the book The Defining Decade, which in a few words says that your twenties are the defining years of your life. It’s also not a secret that I am a huge believer of your thoughts becoming your reality.
This is exactly how I think of 2016.
This year was not only filled with peonies and celebratory dinners for me. I experienced setbacks, some might say failures, pain and sadness – just like many of you. I also experienced some pretty great achievements and at the end of the year I truly believe the good and bad balanced themselves out to produce a stronger and more defined me.
I believe that instead of 2016 being the worst year of your life, it was a defining year of your life. I can already feel how much more empowering that is. Any setback, failure, pain you experienced is ultimately serving to mold you into who you are at this moment right now. It had a purpose, to prepare you for something so much greater than you can imagine.
And think, in spite of all of the craziness or downright bullsh*t 2016 brought you, here you are, in this moment. You made it.
I’m not saying to minimize all of the negative experiences that may have come your way… but instead use them to empower and catapult you into 2017. Be grateful for every lesson and triumph and remember this year one that was a defining moment in your life.
I hope your 2017 is filled with peace, love and an abundance of all things good.