Hello pretty ladies! So I was scrolling on social media last night and I was completely disgusted by what I saw. One of my followers posted a picture of her workout progress and of course the peanut gallery had loads of negativity to spread. It’s so incredibly hard to ignore things going on in the media that tell us that we have to look or act a certain way. The truth of the matter is that we are all different and if we aren’t confortable in our own skin, a lot of others issues could surface. I’ve seen a lot of friends lose themselves in what they think they should look like. I, myself, have dealt with a few of these issues and over the past year I’ve come to grips with it. I’ve pulled together five tips for being confident in your own skin that I find to be extremely helpful in my day to day life that could also help a few of you as well.
1. If you can’t change it, don’t sweat it!
I usually notice that the things people dislike about themselves are things that they can’t change. Stretch marks, for example. Newsflash, almost every woman in the world has stretch marks, it’s apart of being a woman. Whether your stretch marks are from growing into your adult physique, pregnancy or some fluctuation in weight, they’re a symbol of your growth and maturation. You can’t change these imperfections so embrace them and move on! Life is entirely too short to worry about little things that we can’t change about ourselves. You’ll be surprised by how many people don’t notice the things about yourself that you dislike.
2. No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
You are yourself and that’s all you will ever be. There’s no other person in the world exactly like you and that’s something special all in itself. People can be cruel, envious and even jealous. Somewhere along the way those kinds of people have had their self-esteem crushed, don’t allow them to do the same to you. Flip your hair and go on your merry way!
3. Don’t be a hater.
One thing that is terribly contagious is hating on others for things that you wish you had or things that you wish you were accomplishing. Talking about others is not attractive and it won’t get you what you want. Don’t be the Gretchen Wieners in your clique, instead you should use that jealousy and turn it into motivation. Being jealous of others, in my opinion, is one of the top reasons that people look down on themselves.
4. Dust yourself off and keep grinding!
This tip doesn’t exactly pertain to body image but I do think that a lot of young women need to hear it. In my college experience, the one thing that I learned quickly was that failure is apart of life. You might not get the internship you’ve been working so incredibly hard for but that doesn’t mean that you busted your butt for nothing. Although sometimes giving up seems a lot easier than continuing to grind, I can promise you that hard work doesn’t go unnoticed for long. If you aren’t struggling, you aren’t improving! Keep your head up and work for what you deserve!
5. Do what makes you happy.
Lately on social media I’ve been seeing posts about girls being “fake” for wearing makeup, hair extensions, acrylic nails, etc. This is all bs! These things can make a woman feel more confident with themselves and if that’s the case then do you girl! Things like this can be a way of self-expression and that’s a part of self-esteem, being able to express yourself and not care that others may not like it.
You are ALL beautiful, inside and out. You are the best version of you that there is and no one can rob you of that.
Take care ladies!
My name is Kennedy Ponder, I’m 20 years old and a second year journalism major at the University of Cincinnati. When I’m not attending classes or work I’m usually out enjoying the night life! Being that I’ve just recently entered my twenties, a lot of new experiences and opportunities have surfaced. Normally I stick to what I know best, but I’m determined to change that. Feel free to follow me on my journey: